This week an abandoned building was torn down near my home. This abandoned building used to be nestled in the fork where two roads converge. It actually was one of those types of land marks we locals used for directional purposes. However, the owner decided to tear it down. I am unsure of the reasons behind this. In the past few months it had been vandalized. So the owner’s may have found it more of a liability rather than an asset.
This particular building had a rich history. It had been many things in its life. It was a small local church and a car garage for its owner. In the place it stood also set a convenient store. For me the importance of the building wasn’t necessarily what it used to be but the fact it existed. This building had been in its current location longer than I have been alive. Albeit, twenty-five years isn’t that old relative to other ages. However, in my mind this building had always been and would always be. I was wrong.
This got me to thinking about change. In fact, if you were to poll people about change you may get the sentiment that change is inevitable.
This is certainly the prominent theme with life. Life happens whether one is ready for it or not. You cannot always be ready for change. Often its abrupt and senseless. Other times it’s calculated and purposeful.
Change brings about two types of attitudes. People can either hate it or embrace it.
People who hate change often question why changes are being made. Their sense of normality and comfort is being disrupted and they find it legitimate to find out why. They may oppose it, fight it, and ignore it. However, it’s always nearly impossible to do any of that.
However, there are people who embrace change. They love everything about it. They like new places, people, and things. These folks often like change for the sake of change and believe things can always be improved. They may feel less inclined to follow tradition.
I suppose I fall into the first category when discussing change. Initially my first thoughts are usually negative. When change occurs it has to make sense to me. I believe there has to be a reason for the change. If a legitimate reason isn’t presented I’m less likely to find the change favorable. Personally, I find that logical. However, others may disagree.
I believe a person’s attitude about change can reflect deeper traits of their personality.
As an example, someone who favors constant change may hold less to traditional views. They may be convinced to seek alternative methods before they attempt tried and true techniques.
Likewise, a person that doesn’t like change my be more staunch in his or her beliefs. He/she may hold more traditional values as opposed to new age ideas. They like concepts that are reliable.
Obviously, that is very generic and doesn’t hold true for everyone. But for a fun social experiment poll your friends about change. Ask if they think it should be arbitrary or calculated. Their answers will give you more insight into their personalities.
I for one have never been the type of person to have change for the sake of change. I have always believed “If it isn’t broke don’t fix it”. Why mess with a good thing?
I knew a lady who believed in putting things on its head. She believed in change for the sake of change. She often baffled me.
So as we have discussed change is inevitable and is in unavoidable. Here are a few key steps for dealing with change:
1) If it feels overwhelming, talk to someone. Go to a parent, friend, coworker or professional. We aren’t meant to handle desperate situations alone. Always ask for help. Change can be terrifying and letting someone help you with your issue can certainly make it more manageable. There is strength in numbers.
2) Sometimes change just has to be embraced. If you have been getting unwanted results in a certain situation its time to make a change. Einstein said its insanity to keep performing the same methods and expecting different results. Mix it up and realize sometimes change has to occur for situations to reach a new climax.
3) Always attempt to control the ebb and flow of the ever-changing winds. This certainly can’t be done all of the time but calculated change can be effective. Don’t let life happen to you. You should happen to life. Set goals and priorities and work towards those goals. Again you may not be able to control the actual change but you have given it direction. Much like a sail boat.
4) Lastly, understand that just as quickly as this change has occurred another one could happen just as quickly. The thing about change is its inevitable, unavoidable, and rarely controllable. Don’t stress about your situation. You may not be in it for long. The mind-set “This to shall pass” is very accurate. Nothing stays the same forever. Those dark nights will turn to bright days. The change will occur.
Ask yourself; Do I need to make a change?
Change is important. We can measure our growth as a person because of change. We should look for events in our life that will yield change. They will test us. They will make us weary. They will make us stronger.
This in itself is humbling.