Loneliness and aloneness sound similar. In fact, they share the root word “Lone”. Which is defined as “having no companions; solitary or single”.
However, these two concept are very different.
For one, being alone is a physical state. While being lonely is an emotional state.
Being alone is healthy. Don’t confuse voluntary aloneness to isolation. Isolation isn’t healthy and should be avoided. However, having alone time is rewarding, gratifying, and normal. When you are alone you can work on project, hobbies, or do some of your best thinking. Generally, people crave come level of aloneness.
Some need more or less aloneness than other people. Largely, your desired level of aloneness depends if you tend to be more introverted or extroverted. Introverts require less human interaction and therefore flourish when they have alone time. Its their time to recharge.
People use there alone time to make important decisions, unwind, and become more of the person they want to be. Overall, aloneness is something that everyone can relate to. We all need time to our self.
However, loneliness is an emotional state. It can create emotional pain, crippling emotional pain. From time to time everyone feels lonely. Chronic loneliness creates many problems. Some loneliness is so destructive a person may be in a crowded place but feel as if they are the only person on the plant.
People that feel that way are experiencing emotional pain. Some emotional pain can hurt much worse that physical pain. Even more so, emotional pain can translate into physical pain.
We never know the battles that people having going on in their soul. A dangerous place to be, in someone’s soul. And yet its what we all say we want, intimacy on that level.
A simple expression of out reach could lessen that burden for someone. We should be striving to make people feel loved, accepted, and wanted.
We can achieve this one person at a time. Lets make the world a better place.
This in itself is humbling.